“Peace” of Advice

Raising children involves stress and strain as well as joy and exhilaration. With our good intentions, we often micro-manage our child’s every movement and action — correcting, responding, and redirecting. All too often, a “No” comes forth far more frequently than a “Yes.”  Or the “Good Job!” cliche accompanies a simple action that scarcely needs a response, which only rewards the trivial.

Try letting a few more of those little actions go by without comment or conflict. Let a smile suffice for something small that is well done. And a child doesn’t have to see a mean-spirited grimace to know she did something inappropriate. A deep-rooted peace in the household can come about from parents who know what conflicts to tackle and which to let fade in the breeze.

You may be amazed at how “natural” you and your child will feel over time, as you let the minor things – good or bad — take a back seat so the truly significant occupies your energy.

Thought: In autumn, watch the trees — the leaves fall when they need, whether the wind is light or large.  Spring always returns and renews.


2 thoughts on ““Peace” of Advice

  1. Fade in the breeze and watch the trees–love that rhyme and the ideas it echoes. Thank you, also, for the natural (nature) thread that weaves throughout the peace of the piece. Form marries content gracefully here, which makes the advice that much richer.

  2. Having just read Nicholas Carr’s review of Daniel Goleman’s new book called FOCUS: THE HIDDEN DRIVER OF EXCELLENCE, I wonder if today’s technology partially explains parents’ increased struggle to distinguish the trivial from the important. For example, in discussing Goleman’s phrase, “impoverishment of attention,” Carr comments that our “smartphones and other networked gadgets allow us to jack into an unending supply of messages and alerts. Some of them are important, some of them are trivial, but all of them demand notice” (NYTimes Book Review, 03 Nov 13: 16).

    p.s. I like the sparkling new picture–simply amazing.

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